Let’s change everything

Let’s change everything

We wrote recently about the increase in the number of people of mature years who are divorcing: let’s call them the “silver splitters”. There are many consequences of such changes, some of which may not be contemplated in advance by those seeking a change in their lives.

Nationwide Mortgages has recently published results of some wide ranging research, which are revealing.

The headlines show:-

  • 66% of those splitting up reported being worse off financially
  • In 25% of cases the family home had been sold
  • 33% said that the change had given them a new lease of life, including travel, career change and a new relationship

Who is involved?

  • The latest annual figures (from 2014) show that there were 130,743 divorces
  • Of those, 60,400 were over the age of 50
  • 52% of the over fifties divorcing had been married for more than 20 years

What were the main reasons for the divorce?

  • 34% of those divorcing gave the main reason as a relationship with a new partner
  • 25% said that they had “grown apart”
  • 15% said that it was their partner’s decision to separate 

What were the financial consequences

  • As indicated above, in 25% of cases the family home had been sold
  • Where the family home was sold, the majority moved into smaller accommodation
  • Nearly 10% of those separating moved into rented accommodation
  • In 42% of cases the value of the house was split equally (even where the house did not have to be sold but an adjustment was made from other assets)
  • In 25% of cases there was a split of other assets (in a surprising 75% of cases, one partner taking or receiving nothing)

What were the financial consequences of the divorce?

  • 58% of those who surveyed reported that the separation had left them worse off
  • Of those 58%, half found that they were struggling financially after the divorce (31% of them being women and 23% men)
  • 15% were better off (18% of those being men and 13% women)

What effects did the separation have on the family?

  • Almost half found that little changed and they had continuing relationships with, for example, children and grandchildren
  • However, 36% of men and 12% of women saw less of their children after divorce
  • A surprising one in seven divorcers saw their children and grandchildren more after divorce
  • An unsurprising 51% of men lost contact with their former partner’s family and 30% did not see joint friends.

Is there any good news?         


  • 52% of man and 28% of women met a new partner after the divorce
  • 36% of those over 50 who divorced said that they had been given a “new lease of life” by the change
  • 35% (many more women than men) said that they had started to travel with a friend
  • After a divorce, it is women who are far more likely to travel, get a job or enrol on a course, which they would not have done previously
  • And 55% of respondents said they were “happier” after the divorce


It should be remembered that these figures are merely a snapshot, and it is impossible to identify the socio-economic groupings of those who were questioned.

However, it does appear that women fare less well economically after a divorce in later life but are more amenable to change and adaptation.

In the end, of course, those seeking a separation at this later stage of life must decide whether any perceived short-term gains will last in the longer term.

For more information or some preliminary, confidential advice, please contact Pippa Allsop from our Family Team by telephone +44 (0)1392 687747 or email pippa.allsop@michelmores.com.